I was talking to my Mom the other night. I asked her to find a part time job in addition to the part time job she all ready has. She said that she was going to put an application in at McDonald to help bring in some extra cash (since I have to pick up overtime to help her pay the bills, I feel that she should be proactive in brginging in more income). She told me that she's very tired and so is her husband, so they are not really keen on working any extra.
I told her that I am only 16 years older than her. I am working 48 hours a week (this includes the 6 or 7 shifts I picked up as extra) and I'm tired too. We had a disagreement about the issue of working more.
I have paid off the old electric bill of 299 dollars and paid the water bill of 271.56 for now. She still has a sewer bill and a Verizon bill past due. She mentioned to me that she "would like to have 2 thousand dollars". I just wanted to scream at her.
I went to Aldi this morning with my husband. Two weeks ago, I spent about 220 dollars. Well, today, I guess I felt like I was wealthy and spent another 133 dollars. I am over my grocery budget by 53 dollars. I really can't buy anything except milk for the kids until the first pay check in December.
I bought two bottles of shampoo, three jugs of laundry soap, 48 water bottles, two take and bake pizzas (one cheese, one Italian meats), 20 pounds of potatoes (1.69 a bag folks!!!), a shrimp ring for the kids Thanksgiving, 6 lb onions (3 lb for 69 cents), 1 lb of roma tomatoes, 2 cucumbers, pop tarts (99 cents on clearance), grape jelly, 40 oz peanut butter, margarine (3 lb), a 12 lb turkey 1.19 a lb, 2 gallons of skim milk (2.69 each), 2 jars of gravy, a half pork loin 2.99 lb, lb pork sausage, bag of brussel sprouts, broccoli floret, California medley, 2 kielbasa, one hazelnut chocolate bar, frozen spinach, pork roast (1.99 lb, I cut this into 6 smaller "roast", it was huge), 8 oz mozzarella and sharp cheddar, 6 stuffing mixes, 2 boxes of hot chocolate, 3 lb sweet potatoes, marshmallows,
We all ready had a pretty full freezer. My husband did a wonderful job of making sure that the freezer was organized and able to fit in the new meat additions. Our pantry is full. It's a nice feeling. I should not BUY ANYTHING except milk for the rest of the month.
Dinner tonight is the take and bake pizzas. We bought a cheese for the kids and Italian meat for the adults. My DH is going to make a salad to go with it. I am working tonight until Monday morning.
I love having a means to support my family.
The prices of your groceries are so much less than ours. For a gallon of 2% milk here, generic, it is 4.50 at least.
ReplyDeleteOur everyday normal price for milk was close to 3.99 at mainstream stores. Aldi must have something going on right this holiday season. It was awesome to pick up an extra gallon.
DeleteSo sorry about your mom. That is one of those situations where my advice would be that you should quit helping her because she is taking you for granted. But I've never been in that situation and I know it has to be hard to see your mom struggling and not help her. Good luck and try not to wear yourself out too much.
ReplyDeleteAfter I finish with the sewer bill and verizon (both 400 plus dollars) I am finished. I told her that I'm trying to get my own bills paid off and that I am also getting tired of working overtime. I'd actually like to plan for another vacation starting in January 2015. We would like to go see a travel agent for a possible cruise/Disney trip, but it costs a bit for the initial down payment, that I wouldn't have since I am helping Mom out.
DeleteI would also say that you need to stop enabling your mom. From what you have written, they have a pretty good income, even for a HCOL area. (My daughter and family are in RI too.) This will NEVER be resolved unless you back away. Believe me, I know from personal experience. They will find a solution when they need to. It is very kind of you to help, but I think you have done enough!
ReplyDeleteI agree. I have to talk to my mom this Monday evening and let her know that I am struggling with paying for the sewer and phone bills. They are about 400 dollars each. I just can't keep helping, since it puts an emotional strain on me, and honestly, I'm wanting to go back to college to get my MSN and pay cash for it, instead of getting a student loan. I can't keep supporting her ways and mistakes, and pay cash for my tuition.
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